October 10,2009 Diet Blog

My Blairstown BFF spent the night because last night was spent at karaoke videoing her for Oprah's contest. We have six videos altogether. We want to choose the one we like the best. Our karaoke buddy- you may remember him...we helped him get the job at a new gig not to long ago- anyway we were at his regular gig on Friday night when he approached us to come to the new place again. It will only be his second time there and he was again in need of singers. We both had plans but he pleaded with us and so we changed them. Anything for a friend and he is on the fast track towards just that. My plans were easily moved to Sunday but my Blairstown BFF jumped through major hoops to change hers. Another who will do almost anything for someone she cares about. I wrote our karaoke buddy an inbox message on face book saying that 'your groupies will be appearing tonight' when and where. He was thrilled. We lovingly refer to ourselves as his groupies ever since we helped him get the job at the new place and now its an on going inside joke.
We showed at the gig after much turmoil and glitches with my GPS. We got there at 8:45 pm, which was perfect. It started at nine. There was problems with the words on the karaoke screen, so while Blairstown BFF and I sang (because we knew all of the words to certain songs) our karaoke buddy fixed the machine. There were 4 singers. Blairstownn BFF, me, karaoke buddy and another older gentleman with a beautifully cultured tenor voice. Tenor knew his words too so we did a round robin for 2 songs each plus another extra one by Blairstown.
Blairtown did great and I took more video of her. She wore a little cowboy hat and matching shirt too. She looked adorable and sounded even better! She was on. Other singers joined us. We were having a ball. Midnight came and 2 of Karaoke buddies other women friends came in. They were much younger and much prettier than me but they were very nice. I had seen them before at other karaoke gatherings so we introduced ourselves and exchanged a bit of pleasantries and open laughter.
Karaoke buddy then did the oddest thing. He told Blairstown and I to move down the bar and let the two new women have our seats. We'd been in the same spots all night. We were right next to Karaoke Buddy of course. It made sense. We always sit close in case were needed. Blairtown worked the machine while karaoke buddy was on break. It was a weird moment. I picked up my stuff and moved saying nothing but I have to admit I was shocked and not impressed by that.
I know his girl friend- we're good friends- neither of these women were her. She is in Florida with her daughter. How did they rate? We were done in an hour. Anyway- Blairtown stayed put. That was her chair. She jokingly told him while shaking her finger at him but if you would've seen his face, you'd know he either didn't hear her or he just didn't give a hoot. She also found the moment offensive though, there was no question from my angle. We sang one more song each and left abruptly. She was 'pissed off' to quote her. I was just hurt and embarrassed. To be truthful I wondered if it was because they were so pretty and I am not...I said nothing- which I hate myself for!
I stewed about it for awhile. It isn't that big of a deal but it is festering. Blairstown doesn't want to help him anymore. He was insensitive and callus considering all of the facts. I decided not to let it go. I wrote him a paragraph of about 6 sentences on face book. They were gentle, polite and not meant to hurt him. I told him the truth and that its not a big deal but that women in general like to feel appreciated and not cast aside when their usefulness is done helping out someone they call friend. I admitted to my own hurt feelings too- which I normally never do, but this is a dumb reason to end a nice friendship and I NEED to change this aspect of my personality. I'm just hoping that it was the right thing. I'll keep you posted.
We mostly ate out today so I used portion control to handle the diet. It feels like crap when you don't eat healthy though, I can fully attest to that at this time. I'm craving healthy! Can you imagine? ;-) See you next Blog!